And maybe even help you with the maneuvering once she sees how amazing the different techniques feel when combined. And always avoid using your teeth at all costs. After a couple of seconds, you can go back to licking. Lightly massage , touch, and kiss her whole body. Many women have a sensitive patch just to one side of the clitoris, for example. There are two most comfortable ways to do this: So look out for heavy breathing, moaning, an increase in her lubrication, grinding or pulsing, and possibly gripping your hair or the bedclothes tightly. Just like the first time you started having sex with one another, when you first started dating, you had to get a lot wrong before you got it right. Imagine just rubbing the head of the penis without the shaft — that would be similar to rubbing just the head of the clitoris without rubbing the legs. Start out slowly A classic mistake with oral is that you just dive in with your tongue flicking away at lightning speed. Above all else, listen to her and enjoy yourself. Techniques Warm her up by keeping your touch gentle and slow-motion. Simply insert one side of it into her vagina and let the other side vibrate on top. By starting slow and switching up the intensity from high to low, and low to high, you create sexual tension, which eventually spills over in the form of orgasm s. While a guy can happily hit a rolling boil in no time at all, a woman needs more time to heat up. Again, listening and paying attention to her response throughout is key. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work.