But it's very clear that a lot of teens and older people, too! Touching yourself doesn't have to always be about sexual gratification. The messages we're sent via our culture and media about our bodies are almost always about how they look or how perfect they should be, and more specifically, how they look to the opposite sex despite the fact that some of us aren't even interested in the opposite sex, all of the time, or ever. A big part of honoring your feelings is being able to first look at them and recognize them yourself. Let's talk about sex, baby. Insist on honesty from your partners as well as from others involved, even tangentially, in your sexual life: When the drama reaches Shakespearean levels, instead of plummeting through it, try stepping back just once, by asking for a short break for everyone to breathe and have time to look at the situation from outside of it. Before talking to your daughter about these issues, consider your own comfort level on these issues. So, take good care of your body in every way you can. Which is true for typical [nondisabled] girls, too. Even when you have a partner in your life, you'll discover that there are things you'll do, and responses you'll have, only when you're your own lover. Firstly, you must accept that what she is feeling is natural, and unrelated to her disability. Are there aspects of your identity that keep getting shoved on the back shelf, even if you would really like to explore them? Write down your hottest fantasies and then reward yourself 8. When you respect it and you, it's a wonderful part of who you are, one that has the power to enrich your life and make you feel physically and emotionally great. Fill your mind with material to help you start to evaluate things like orientation and gender identity, the quality of your relationships, and your own wants and needs when it comes to sex and sexual partnership.