For most couples, especially those who've been together for a number of years, companionship, reliability and a sense of mutual trust are far more meaningful than a lot of hot, sweaty sex. Yes, it is a healthy way for couples to bond emotionally. Most sex therapists agree that having sex less than 10 times a year is reason enough to label your marriage a sexless one. DeLamater McGraw-Hill, , the largest percentage of married couples reporting in a study said they had intercourse three times a week. Published in and written by three, well-respected US scholars including sexologist Pepper Schwartz , it draws on thousands of surveys to find out what makes couples happy. Is there any way to resolve this conflict? A recent Gransnet survey showed that many couples felt extremely happy and satisfied in their sexless relationships with only 65 per cent rating sex as important Another well-respected US study also found the biggest predictor for overall happiness for couples was the relationship connection not sex. How well your relationship is going can definitely be a factor, but past sexual abuse or other issues with sex over the years can be a factor as well. People who are having a lot of sex are usually pretty OK with that. This can also be the case for couples under 50, who both have low or no sexual drive, and are happy not to have it. This is especially true for couples who qualify as "sexless. The book, The Normal Bar, supports this finding. Now is the time to talk about it with your partner. As long as your sexual behavior or lack of it isn't illegal, affecting your self-esteem, troubling to your relationship or leading to negative life consequences, why worry?