Some friends tell me their YIs go away on their own. When she is not having any symptoms, your risk of infection is greatly reduced, but it is up to both of you whether you want to use barrier protection or not, during times that she is not having any symptoms. A rare means of transmission is through sharing flannels, as the bacterium thrives in warm moist places. In a pinch or if latex causes either of you irritation, non-microwavable plastic wrap can also serve as a barrier. Herpes info for lesbians 1 Dear Alice, All the information I have found about herpes is written for heterosexual couples. Whatever the decision, it's good to make it together, recognizing the risks involved and sharing the pleasures. For women who sleep with women and everyone else , the first step in preventing transmission is to avoid contact with infected areas of skin, whether on the mouth, vulva, thighs, butt, or elsewhere, when sores are present. Strategies for preventing herpes transmission really boil down to preventing contact with infected areas of skin; this holds true for any intimate partners, regardless of gender. I am currently in a same sex relationship with a girl I consider my best friend. People who have herpes can talk with a health care provider about medications that can help control outbreaks. I have been looking up and printing out things so that she can see that people have been in relationships for a long period of time or just in short term relationships and have not got it from their partners. Not only will this help you protect your partner, it may also help you develop a stronger and more open relationship. That being said, having a lesbian releationship that involves oral sex means you are at risk - since unlike a man - you don't have a condom option for protection. Spread by any close contact with an affected person, their bed linen or their clothes, symptoms include seeing the lice themselves, and itching. Unfortunately, I also noticed some antagonism towards doctors in general, which seemed to be fueled by the negative experiences a lot of you have had. This can become a good warning that an outbreak is imminent and for you and your partner to avoid touching the area where sores normally appear.