And the state of our bodies effects the state of our minds: But, you know, in relationships that are right for everyone, we can safely voice our feelings and work with them, and we need to be able to do that to be in good relationships. Being able to talk openly about sex can't just protect our hearts, minds and bodies, it can save our lives. Look for sources that offer you real information, not salacious tips on how to bring someone else to orgasm or how to achieve firmer breasts. She says a phase III clinical trial of the testosterone patch involving several thousand women worldwide is currently wrapping up, and results should be published soon. Unlike men's main sexual complaint, erectile dysfunction , women's biggest sexual problem is caused by a combination of both mental and physical factors, which aren't likely to be cured by merely popping a pill. If you aren't as into someone else as you know they're into you, let them know, don't lead them on or take advantage. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend can make us feel great about ourselves, and having sex can make us feel great about our bodies. If you've got health issues to deal with, or need to make some healthy changes in terms of what you're eating or not getting enough activity, do that. While it's important that we bear everything in mind we need to in terms of infection and disease, birth control , our relationships, our bodies and the whole works, now and then we need to remember the bare bones and the human element of the thing, and keep the essentials in the forefront of our minds. So, it's important that we really can stand alone; that we can love and accept our bodies whether or not anyone else shows attraction to them at any given time. Give it healthy food, the rest and activity it needs, the healthcare -- sexual and general -- it requires, both preventatively and when you become ill. ENDA would be a start, but it does not apply to small businesses, religious organizations or the military more on this later , and does not require that domestic partner benefits be provided to the same-sex partners of employees. Studies show that couples who have sex regularly are happier.