In the course of the century, more and more women have deviated from this code behind the scenes, but whenever caught in the glare of public attention, they gave rise to scandal and were treated like 'fallen women'. She must be taught to love, in the complete sense in which we here use the term. It is an attempt at sketching a coherent picture of these social and psychic changes within and between the sexes, and to unfold a perspective that is inherent in the concept of the lust balance. Sexual education predominantly consists of 'beware and watch out'. From the s on, topics and practices such as premarital sex, sexual variations, unmarried cohabitation, fornication, extramarital affairs, jealousy, homosexuality, pornography, teenage sex, abortion, exchange of partners, paedophilia, incest and so on, all part of a wider process of informalization Wouters, , implied repeated confrontations with the traditional lust balance. The appearance on the scene of the amatrice as a dramatis personae Today, some people mostly men even view them as contradictory. Until the second half of the twentieth century the dominant social code regarding the sexuality of women and men clearly continued to represent a lust-dominated sexuality for men and a complementary romantic love or relationship-dominated sexuality for women. Thus, emancipation of women ran in tandem with changes in public morality as well as in individuals' codes and ideals regarding love and sex. This question is first raised in puberty or adolescence when bodily and erotic impulses and emotions that were banned from interaction from early childhood onwards except in cases of incest are again explored and experimented with: This article aims at a description and interpretation of this collective learning process.